Many women have a certain amount of fear associated with their first boudoir session. This is totally understandable, since it's completely out of most people's comfort zone. So, let me put a few things out there to help assuage any fears you might have.
I send out over half a dozen emails before your session to help you prepare. These emails help you figure out how to best flatter your frame, things you can do to prepare for the best session ever, and more. And my clients can respond to any of those emails if they have questions regarding them. Not to mention, at any time you can pick up the phone and call me. If I'm with a client, I can't answer, but I return calls same day every time.
I've had many women tell me that they would love to do a session, but they have no idea how to pose. Let me reassure you... few people come to me knowing how to pose. Most people have no model training. Again, have no fear, because I will show you how to rock every single pose. Most of the poses I will do first and show you how to do them, and then I will direct you as you move. It actually becomes very technical... a slight move of the head here, a slight angle of the foot there. And everyone comes to me with different degrees of flexibility and fitness, but we can work around any issues you have. I've got you covered!
Another concern that most women have, although not all, is their weight. I've had so many women tell me that they are waiting to book a session until they have lost a certain amount of weight. While everyone has a weight in mind that they consider ideal for themselves, few of us are actually where we want to be. And if you're using a boudoir session to incentivize yourself to get to the point you want to be, then go for it. But it's not necessary. More weight equals more curves. And curves are fun to showcase! If you're worried about your tummy or your arms or some other area of your body that you are not in love with, all you have to do is be completely open with me about your concerns. This is not about getting you to accept the things you don't love, but about showcasing the things you do. This is done through wardrobe choices and posing. Again, I've got you covered!
And when it comes to wardrobe, bring those things that make you feel your sexiest! Not everything photographs well, but I have enough experience to know which will work. Bring it all, and we'll sort through it here.
And sometimes we are just not comfortable in our skin. I understand that, too. If you have not yet tried shapewear, I highly recommend it! Nude or black shapewear will be your best friend. If you tend to lean towards black lingerie, then I recommend black shapewear. It blends with the lingerie in pictures. And it keeps everything tight and lifted and in its place. Look for pieces with good boning, or pieces that go over your shoulder so that nothing rolls down. Sometimes this little addition to your wardrobe is all you need to feel completely confident in your lingerie.
Years of speaking to women before their session have taught me that a woman's biggest fear is watching all of her insecurities laid out before her... A fear that she's going to see them in every single image. But boudoir photography is the opposite of that. Intimate portraits are about showcasing your assets. We all have things about us that are sexy, and a boudoir session is about bringing those to the forefront of your images.
So, as you are getting ready for your session... Hair, makeup, and girl chat... Be as open as you can about your fears and your insecurities, and then throw them out the window and trust the process. This, ladies, is how you will blow your own mind! You will leave feeling completely transformed… you will see yourself in a beautiful new light, and this is something every woman deserves.
Lori Stead has been a professional photographer for over a decade and LOVES the celebration of the female form.